If individual clinicians are aware that they are uncomfortable with the issues of gay sex and relationships then they should refer the patient on to somebody else. Some people change their mindĭisapproval-The days when physicians would try to impose their own moral standards on their patients should be long past. The counsellor must be seen to be completely impartial and not encourage any particular outcome. Some choose to remain married, and the couple may need help to reorganise the basis of their heterosexual relationship. These people require careful and compassionate counselling. Help at this time can include (for men especially) information about safer sex, since sexual exploration may present a greater risk of exposure to HIV.Īlthough many gay men and lesbians are aware of their orientation from their earliest sexual thoughts, a sizeable minority do not discover their orientation until later in life, perhaps in a failing marriage and with the responsibilities of parenthood. However tolerant our society may become, being openly gay still has major implications for future career and family life. If this occurs in adolescence it may be useful to offer counselling to help with the readjustment in life that may be required. People may encounter problems when they become aware of their homosexual orientation and try to match it to their view of an ideal self.
